the political extremes

I just finished Barack Obama's book, "The Audacity of Hope." His politics seem liberal, but with an expressed understanding of why people disagree with him. Reading his book made me reconsider some of my own political views -- views that fall into the category of "culture war."

Obama believes that although church and state are separated by our constitution, it should not have to mean that the two are completely severed. If Alcoholics Anonymous is the most successful way of treating alcoholism, even though it requires surrendering yourself to a higher power -- shouldn't the government consider supporting it? Or if all of the public schools in an area are failing their students, yet the local Catholic school is succeeding, are vouchers for private parochial education really a bad idea for those students?

These issues that hinge on constitutional interpretation -- separation of church and state, the right to an abortion, the right to bear arms -- have greatly polarized our political society. The reason? I believe it's because our constitution is the fundamental guide to our government, yet as a living document, it is always being reinterpreted in the courts. And because of the power of legal precedent, not to mention the focused power of the Supreme Court, each side of a constitutional argument is fighting tooth and nail not to give any ground, for fear of a landslide and a complete erosion of their position.

Virtually no one wants late-term abortions. If you've already spent six months carrying a baby and now you decide you want an abortion, it's really too late. But the legal argument makes abortion advocates afraid to support such a ban.

The NRA vehemently opposes any piece of legislation, however sensible, that restricts access to guns. Again, in defending a principle, they refuse to give any ground.

People have a right to their own beliefs and their own principles. Let's say you like Thai food. Great. But if every time you get together with your three friends and you demand that you all go out for Thai food, even though Brendan is vegan and they put fish sauce in everything, and if your friends don't go out for Thai, you just ditch them and go reheat yesterday's panang curry, you're just being a phenomenal pain in the ass.

But forget your three friends -- we live in a society of three hundred million people. Try getting them all to eat Thai for every meal.

Helping other Americans is more important than defending your principles to the death. I know you know in your heart that you're right, and you probably are. But acknowledging that your principles can't fix every situation will go further towards making the country better in the end.